"The Emperor's New Clothes," Vilhelm Pedersen |
The Emperor’s New Clothes
Hans Christian Anderson illustrated
the vulnerability of leaders who are unable to self assess in his wonderful tale
“The Emperor’s New Clothes.” Another
important observation that Anderson made was that the Emperor’s ‘executive
leadership team’ would not tell him the truth about his lack of coverage, or
protection for fear of retribution. So, because of his vanity and inability to engender
trust in others he paraded through the streets of Denmark in an invisible suit of clothes. The only one who pointed out the truth was a
boy in the crowd. “Out of the mouths of
babes..”
Nolo Contendere
Nolo Contendere is a Latin legal expression meaning that the
accused neither accepts nor denies guilt.
A recent example of this is Bob Filner, Mayor of San
Diego, who has been accused of sexually harassing as many as 16 different women
during his career. Mr. Filner claims that he has never been trained in sexual
harassment prevention and so is not responsible for his own actions and that
the City of San Diego should pay his legal bills pertaining to these
accusations as a result of his lack of training.
Take it From the Top
As I was about to begin a
training session for the executive leadership team of a former employer, the
head of the organization approached me, put his arm around my shoulder and
said, “Wendy, does this really need
to take three and a half hours? You can make the session shorter, can’t you?
Say, two hours?” He gazed at me very
directly, you might say, with emphasis, to make sure that I understood the
message. He was not really asking me to shorten the session. He was telling
me to do so. We had customized the
session for this group, to assure that they understood their role and
responsibility to prevent harassment and discrimination in the workplace. Now, after months of preparation, I was being
told to cut the session almost in half.
I was not happy, but I knew that I was not empowered to defy him. How could he
be exempt from this training that every employee in the organization was
mandated to participate in? When organizations are committed to preventing
harassment and discrimination, they hold everyone
accountable to upholding the law, regardless of rank. Successful leaders understand that in order
to be effective they must lead by example, by exhibiting impeccable behavior,
not by establishing a double-standard.
On best behavior?
If a consultant had been retained
to facilitate the training session that I describe above, the intimidation that
I experienced would never have occurred.
The head of the organization would have been on his best behavior. This may seem self-serving coming from a
consultant who stands to benefit by those who take my advice, but I have spent
many years as an ‘in-house’ subject matter expert who was hired because of my
expertise and asked or told to bring in ‘experts’ to facilitate training after
I was on board. I learned that outsiders could be more effective, not because
they knew more about preventing sexual harassment than I did, but because they
would be taken more seriously than I would by the organization’s leaders. My mission has remained the same regardless
of whether my role is employee or outside consultant – to end discrimination
and harassment in the workplace. Sometimes
that has meant bringing in an outsider to effectively get the message across,
rather than conveying it myself.
Learning is fun!
Most organizations provide
mandatory sexual harassment prevention training although the quality of that
training varies wildly. What matters
most is not whether education is mandatory or not, but that the education provided
is effective. [I intentionally use the word education instead of the word
training here, as we are discussing changing one’s behavior and competencies,
not how to operate one’s cell phone.] If
the education provided is not interesting to the participants, they will not
retain critical information. Adult
learning theory is very clear: make
learning fun if you want it to make a difference! This rule is applicable regardless of the
subject matter. To be clear: I do not
think that sexual harassment is fun, but the process of helping others to
identify it and prevent it should be. Even serious topics can be made
approachable. So, the opportunity for
subject matter experts is to think about how people learn, why people need to
know how to behave in the workplace and elsewhere, and how to capture the attention
of everyone in every educational session. The opportunity for employers, regardless of
sector or industry is to make sure that everyone in their organization is
accountable, even the Emperor.
Re "The Emperor's Clothes", It is, of course, most dangerously applied to the most influential among us if they cannot decipher the yes men in their midst, but it also applies to more common relationships when all that is being sought is what's commonly known as "a good time".
ReplyDeleteAnd in your discussion of what constitutes better, more effective learning, I could not agree more that fun should be part of the equation. I've had many different types of jobs, some of which i couldn't wait to get to because from the first day I thought they were fun to learn and fun to perform and others that were downright so boring I didn't want to know much about them except the basic information to just get by.
John,
ReplyDeleteThank you for your insights! You are right, whether we are examining the CEO of a major corporation or our relationships with family and friends, we need to be honest in all of our relationships and realize that we help each other most when we hold each other accountable, and that we are at our best when we recognize our interdependence.
We also always need to remember that we should be having fun, being challenged, and learning as much as possible.
~ Wendy